Why Failure May Be the Best Thing That Has Ever Happened To You
Go ahead and embrace the fall to rock bottom.
It took 25 years to understand how far I have come while failing in life; I have failed in every aspect of life; Studies, job, Financial secure, relationships, love, family. Now I think is there any else I have missed.
Nopes Nothing I did miss; For me, everything was a struggle to get; Most of the battle went nothing leaving me empty and lonely. But from all these years, The only thing I was able to grab with a failure was “Failure is part of life “BUT It’s Not Life”.
Where many people fail to see that; All through the life, you’re only taught to strive for more and more excellence and being perfect in front of everybody. So you have given best education, Schooling, receiving best grades, Landing in an Ideal job, Meeting soulmate, having a dream house and kids, Repeat the same process as your parents did and finally you stumble and die one day.
Everybody is scared of failure; Since they have to have a clean image in front of all the people as the parents or grandparents had. Do you really think they did not fail? THEY ALL FAILED IN LIFE, And even your going to see a failure like many times. That is part of the life. But surely not the end of it. Stop seeing failures as a Demon. Even thou you have hit rock bottom in your life. You still live and breath. When you wake up in a sort of dream. Where everybody would treat you as a big failure, and you would be learning from it and move on with it; Since Time never stops for anybody it keeps doing its job; the days your sobber or moron or feeling like dying those days are real time where you’re death wasting the precious life of your.
So what you fail. Learn why you failed what made you fail and how to over come your failure and blend with time.
Let’s see some key points what is a failure in the healthy side and unhealthy side.
Of course, if you’re in a severe crisis, suffering from prolonged depression, or you’re suicidal, get professional medical help immediately. I spend whole life in despair hoping to have a better experience in the future rather than living today.
Otherwise, know that it’s normal to have the blues when you’ve suffered a blow. You need time and space in the doldrums to reconnect with yourself and your needs, and to chart your course. What you need to know is that it will take some heavy lifting on your part to recover.
The hardest part is that nobody really prepares to fail. It’s something you’re taught to fear, so you shudder away from it. But, if you embrace failure, you can enjoy its many profound and unexpected gifts. Here are some facts you need to know about falling down, so you can pick yourself up and rise like the phoenix from the ashes:
Perfection doesn’t exist: You are not alone in failing. Screwing up is part of the human condition. Everyone has character flaws and lessons they need to learn. But when you accept that no one is perfect – including you, you’ll be in a more excellent place of acceptance. Failing teaches you to be humble, and that life isn’t black and white. You’re just as worthy as the next person in having a chance to prove yourself again.
Growth happens in the trenches: People learn by doing; some more than others. Life is a journey, and therefore there is no shame in making mistakes. In fact, there is an expectation of making mistakes. Insights come to you in your darkest hours and lowest lows. You’ll get a new perspective and realize (finally!) what you’ve failed to notice before and just how off-course you were. You’ve earned your scars, so proudly wear them!
Everything happens, always holds two sides of the coin how you Take/Ignore it: Richard Bach said it best with “There is no such thing as a problem without a gift for you in its hands. You seek problems because you need their gifts.” One of my clients lost her job suddenly after 20 years with the same company. Even though she hated her work, it was devastating to her, and she didn’t know where to begin. She said she was depressed. But what she didn’t realize was that she was going through a regular and expected process of grief. She needed to give herself a period of introspection and regrouping. With some coaching, my client reconnected with herself discovered her perfect career and set out on a much happier path. Losing her job was the higher powers kicking her in the butt so that she could finally get out of a rut. Though the reason for your hardship might not be apparent, in time you will uncover it. Have faith that the universe has your back.
What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger:
Failing is the process of building a muscle. When you overexert part of your body, what do you do? You rest it, give yourself a little tender loving care, and you start with smaller exercises to rebuild your strength. The same process is accurate for falling down or overcoming adversity. You can build your resilience and get back in the saddle. Accept that there will be a little pain in the recovery, but subsequent difficulties will be much easier to face. Don’t back down. Fight a little longer.
Something better is around the corner: No one stays down forever. And there are plenty of stories about celebrities — like J.K Rowling and Oprah — who suffered misfortune and triumphed over their circumstances to get where they are today. There were better opportunities on the horizon meant just for them. Your time will come, too. Dig deep into your soul while you’re in the midst of failure. Be clear about what you want and don’t want in your life. Great things happen to people who summon their courage and boldly go after their dreams. Look for that open the door to something better.
Success is sweeter on the way up:
When you get back on your feet after a fall, you have a greater appreciation for the little things. Suddenly, you are most grateful for sunrises and sunsets, flowers blooming, children laughing. Put down your baggage, enjoy a fresh start, and be free to experience all the joys in life.You may also find that this once-thought devastating situation has favorably changed your character.
You know what it’s like to feel pain, desperation, shame, and guilt, and you’ll be there for someone else when they stumble, teaching them the wisdom that comes out of failure and how to accept it gracefully.
Fact: embracing the fall on the way down is hard. But when you give yourself compassion and welcome the experience of failing, you’ll be able to take back your life — even make it better than it ever was. In time, and you’ll realize that hitting rock bottom was the best thing that ever happened to you. It showed you exactly who you are capable of becoming.