Loneliness is shaping into an epidemic. The tragic side it’s not subjected whether you’re with a partner, family or single. It can be felt anywhere no matter how crowded you’re around. The mind can go into delusion if it feels it not heard by the loved ones. I have been lonely for my entire life. And now see it’s taking control over many people. It’s getting impossible to get out of own spired web.
Much of this isolation associated with technological connections and the increased use of social media. Sometimes it’s just easier to text someone than getting in your car and drive to have a cup of coffee or tea, but in the long run, feelings of loneliness increase dramatically. Now ageing population and many elders living alone, many others are choosing to live alone, thus increasing incidences of loneliness.
Loneliness is not just about being alone, though, but rather, it is about a state of mind. It’s about feeling disconnected from those around us, whether an interpersonal or universal standpoint. Those who are lonely feel empty and drained.
Humans are social creatures, and to be happy, we need to establish some intimate bonds with others, but the challenge is to find a balance between solitude and socialisation. We need to interact with each other, and as a society, we tend to organise ourselves in communities
The brain will push the lonely individual to find someone to interact with, because, again, we are social mammals. We need company because our prehistoric ancestors desperately required the company to survive; the presence of other human beings ensured protection and support, both for themselves and for their offspring. Our brains still think we need to be surrounded by others to survive and thrive.
Loneliness is also a natural feeling that everyone experiences at some point in their life. But a chronic state of social isolation is linked to depression, anxiety, and PTSD. These are real threats to members of the groups most vulnerable to social isolation, who are so often overlooked regarding mental health.
The comparing is that craving of the company in socially isolated individuals to hunger states that trigger the search for food. Many time we consume food because it is taste, or because we are hungry, they hypothesise that a similar situation applies to social interactions, and speculation in our mind plays its game when the subject wants social interaction because it is either rewarding (yummy), or because they feel lonely (hungry).
Loneliness, as pretty much all of us feel, is controlled by the brain. Although isolation is considered a negative feeling, science shows that it is actually something we need to overcome a situation that may put us at a disadvantage. Just like feeling physical pain, this is the way your body tells you there is something wrong. So, loneliness cannot kill us, but if it is not mitigated, it might trigger anxiety, stress, and depression, which are known to drive people to unfortunate outcomes.